The film is slow. The audience looks on from a handheld camera's perspective almost as if we are one of the relatives in for the wedding. We see the rehearsal dinner, the wedding, the fights, and the spontaneous games between the family. The film shines for the honest way it captures the interactions of the family--it feels like a real family with big problems but the same emotional struggles of any family.

As far as a narrative, the film carefully doles out exposition in dramatic spoonfuls as the audience becomes initiated into the family's history. Resolutions are not sweeping and final, but the characters try to work out their issues and confront their pasts. Rachel Getting Married is not your typical fare for Friday night at the movies, but there is one scene near the end of the film--you'll know if if you've seen it--that so beautifully depicts the sisterly connection between Kim and Rachel that the entire film becomes tinted with a sort of honesty and hope that makes the boring family speeches and shaky filming worth the time.
I left the theater thinking how much I would love to attend a wedding like the one depicted there. Rachel's family has a lot of issues, but these things get put aside as much as possible to celebrate a simple but true love. The wedding is strange but intimate, and though the reception was foreign to anything I've experienced, I felt the happiness of the people dancing there. Being happy doesn't erase their pain, but there is the sense that happiness is something that exists even in the midst of turmoil.


Nevertheless, the film does have a redemptive ending. Though not entirely settled, much of the tension between old and new, wild and civilized, lessens into a suitable compromise that still requires pondering from the audience.